What Does it Mean to Win? by Heather Sumlin

(This is a message we sent to our contestants in an email this week and thought we would add it to the blog in case it is helpful to others)

I know that you have worked hard preparing for next weekend. This may be your first pageant or your 30th but my message is the same no matter your level of experience. Winning is not always about who leaves with the crown at the end of the evening. Winning IS always about walking away feeling like a winner inside. In pageants we spend a lot of time telling girls about prize packages and what you "get" if you win a title. I want to spend a moment to tell you what you receive no matter where you place.

My Father is Olympic Gold Medalist, Lanny Bassham and he will be helping to train the new titleholders to be mentally prepared for competition. At the Spring Meeting for Miss Texas last year he said "Everything we do in life is preparation for something greater". This pageant is preparation for something for you. For 5 girls it will mean you will win a title and train with the MPFO team to compete for the state title. For everyone else it will be preparation for something else...another competition, your dream job, a future performance, you may meet someone who changes your life, you never know.

We learn more on our struggle up the mountain than we do standing on the summit. Those who walk away without the crown could gain more from the experience than those who win. We learn about determination, perseverance, taking on challenges and striving to be the best we can no matter the odds even if we don't win the title. When we step outside our comfort zone and challenge ourselves we live up to our expectation!

You do not win or lose in competition - you Win or Learn! There is no lose if you chose to take every experience as preparation for something greater. I have met most of you and I know this is going to be a fun competition. The reality is that most of you will go home without a crown because that is how competition works - not everyone takes home the prize. However, I learned so much through competing when I didn't win that I would never advise someone to wait and only compete if they knew they could win. I bet I competed in 40 pageants over 7 years and I won 6 titles. Many times I left a competition without a crown but I never left without growing as a person. I never saw my experience in pageants as a loss. Every competition taught me something and I am who I am today based on those experiences. I didn't wait until I knew I could win before I started competing. My Father always says "perfection is the purest form of procrastination". I'm so proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone and taking a chance to go for your dreams realizing that to wait until you are perfect would be waiting a lifetime!

Typical people have fear that holds them to a level less than their potential. Typical people do not compete in pageants - typical people do not demand more from themselves and put themselves in positions to be disappointed.

Thank you for stepping outside of what is typical and walking down the road to unique and extraordinary!

My advice to you for next Sunday is to HAVE FUN! Enjoy every moment and take it all in. The more fun you have the better your chances of success! Focus on each individual phase of competition as they come and NOT on winning! Your chances of winning the title increase when you focus on having fun!!

I look forward to seeing each of you next weekend and getting to know you better!

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